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title: "曾仕强-爱情与婚姻-首次家庭拜访应注意事项" | ||
date: 2024-04-26 | ||
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tags: ["爱情与婚姻","笔记"] | ||
slug: "love-and-marriage-09" | ||
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带女朋友第一次回家,一起吃饭的时候要注意不要夹菜。如果夹菜第一个心里受到伤害的就是母亲,年轻人常常没有顾虑这么多,所以常常无意间伤害了他人。 | ||
这反应了个人主义和集体主义交互的一个问题。为了不让家人感到不适,最好提前做好准备,与家人沟通好拜访的具体时间和细节。 | ||
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家庭拜访第一印象很重要,但要记住,不要用第一印象论断别人,因为这不可靠,但要小心大家用第一印象论断你。 | ||
所以随时要注意仪表谈吐,给人家的第一印象是非常重要的,一定要慎重。人家对你第一印象不好,你以后要花很多印象来扳回,那为什么刚开始不注意一下? | ||
为此,我们应该注重外表打扮和行为举止,但这应当基于真诚而非仅仅是为了表面功夫。 | ||
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第一次去女朋友家要单独去。虽然一个人去但是代表的却是一个家庭,一个人去就表示你很有信心,有实力,你愿意接受人家的考验。 | ||
因此平时要养成很好的习惯,到时候要作假是很困难的。我们要重视礼貌,礼貌就是第一印象,但是要真诚,而不是说伪装来欺骗。 | ||
家庭拜访要准备礼物。礼尚往来,跟送红包是两回事,见面礼很重要,但不要太贵重。礼品在于意义不在于价值,有没有用心去想,而不是用钱。 | ||
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在餐桌上,要特别留意餐桌礼仪。等到大家都动筷子,你才可以动,夹菜夹离自己最近的,如果挑来挑去表示你很挑食,你的心思都摆在吃饭上面了。 | ||
我们是展现我们的家风,主人也在展现他们的家风,当主人夹菜给你时,即使不是你喜欢的食物,也要礼貌地说声“谢谢”,以显示你的教养和尊重。 | ||
吃饭的时候快慢适宜,最好是多听,少发表议论,言多必失,祸从口出。话要少说一点,也不要一句也不说。如果有问题私下说,不要当面说,要充分给与对方尊重。 | ||
中国人喝酒拼命劝酒,就是在考验人家,他醉了以后就知道他是什么样子的了。但是第一次到人家家里面就喝的酩酊大醉,那这种人谁又看得上? | ||
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家庭拜访人家要尊重长辈,心里是要装着他们全家人,而不是一个人,不要跟女朋友拉拉扯扯这样显得很没礼貌。 | ||
当家庭拜访发生意外情况,不要大惊小怪,这会显得你没见过世面。拜访人时不要说难听的话,来者是客,不能教训人家。 | ||
在恋爱关系中,互相理解和尊重至关重要。不要批评或评论对方的家庭成员,这是最起码的修养,你也没有这个权利。通过这样的相互了解,你们的关系才能自然而然地发展。 | ||
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人是由没有关系进入到有关系,恋爱是由良好的第一印象然后持续的对你有好感。 | ||
首次家庭拜访是建立良好关系的基础。通过遵守这些基本礼仪,你可以为未来的关系打下坚实的基础。 |
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