CoC: make clear that pronouns are a suggestion, not a requirement

conduct.md

@@ -39,11 +39,11 @@ act**.  Here’s a few ways you can do that:
 * **Read pronoun badges!**  It’s impossible to know what pronouns somebody
   uses just by looking at them.  Let them tell you.
 
-* **Write your pronoun badge!** Even if you think your pronouns are
+* **Consider putting your pronouns on your badge, if you're comfortable doing so!** Even if you think your pronouns are
   “obvious” by looking at you, you should write yours down, too!  (In
   the !!Con Online world, we put the pronouns that we'd rather be called by
-  in our Discord name tags, but when we return to in-person !!Cons, we offer
-  space on badges to write down preferred pronouns!)
+  in our Discord profiles, and for in-person attendees, we offer
+  space on badges to write down pronouns!)
 
 * **Assume that all your fellow conference-goers are technical!**  No matter
   whether people do or don’t look like someone that you often see at a